Remember the movie Jab We Met? The leading character of Geet, played by Kareena Kapoor, in the first half of the movie claims that she is her own favourite by remarking, “Mein apni favourite hu”. The dialogue over the years gained a cult following and people around the country have since used it when they need a little ‘pick me up’. However, even Geet could not have suspected that her philosophy would be twisted to an extent that it may seem absolutely ridiculous in real life.
Reportedly, a 24-year-old girl named Kshama Bindu from Gujarat, Vadodara has taken the aforementioned dialogue rather too literally. The woman is gaining a lot of social media traction after she announced that she was marrying herself by calling it sologamy. Yes, barring a groom, Kshama Bindu has arranged everything for the wedding – right from the vows to the lehenga to the Pandit.
As bizarre and idiotic as it may sound, the wedding is scheduled to take place on June 11 and Kshama Bindu has the blessings of her ‘open-minded’ parents. Reportedly, the wedding will be performed in a traditional manner which includes the rituals of pheras and sindoor amongst other activities. Kshama Bindu will get married to herself in the presence of her friends whereas her parents will attend the functions via video call. As for honeymoon, Kshama has plans to go to Goa.
Ridiculous reasoning given by Kshama
Explaining the rationale behind her decision, Kshama Bindu gave the most ludicrous reasoning one’s brain cells could conjure. She said, “At one point in my life, I realised that I don’t require a prince charming because I am my own queen. I want the wedding day, but not the next day. That is why I have decided to marry myself on June 11. I will dress up like a bride, take part in rituals, my friends will attend my wedding and then I will come back to my house instead of going with the groom,…”
She further added, “I have already booked a pandit (priest) to solemnise my marriage. I have observed that unlike in the West, self-marriages are not popular in India. Hence, I have decided to start this trend and inspire others. People may not like my idea, I am confident that I am doing the right thing,…”
The reader should have figured this by now that Kshama Bindu is not a trailblazer breaking any taboo. She is simply a brown-skinned girl suffering from inferiority complex, looking to ape the Westerners and their woke ideas. No offence to Kshama Bindu but she is in the same category of idiots as the Kazakhstan Bodybuilder who decided to marry a sex doll and later divorced it – citing he fell in love with an ashtray. We are not making this up. It happened. Just look it up.
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Kshama needs a doctor
People get depressed. It is a serious illness. And one of the most generic bits of advice passed down to them by society is, “Start loving yourself”. But for a depressed person, it is not easy to act upon the advice. Depression is not a switch that an individual can turn on and off in an instant. People loathe themselves when they are depressed.
However, few patients internalise this particular advice and instead of confronting their true, depressed feelings, they repress them. In case of Kshama, it appears like she is either repressing her feelings or using the sensationalism of the news to gain her 15 seconds of fame in the public eye. We truly have sympathies with her if she is repressing her feelings and would finance a doctor/psychotherapist for her but if that is not the case, she needs to be called out for her buffoonery.
A pathetic ruse from the Sologamist
She is confusing self-love with marriage. If an individual really loves themself, they wouldn’t need to conduct an elaborate wedding and make a big fuss out of it. The likes of Kshama are simply feeding their narcissism and self-indulgent behaviour by stamping it with the word ‘Sologamy’.
The entire ruse is downright pathetic, obnoxious and is the exact opposite of empowerment. One needs to question Kshama Bindu, what happens if she goes out with another man or woman in the future. Would she be cheating on herself or them? What are the ethical boundaries of a sologamist? Do they lead a nun life after marrying themselves where coitus is out of the equation or do they look out for opportunities outside?
Corrupting the sacred bond of marriage
Marriage is a sacred act between two humans, mostly a male and a female. In a Hindu wedding, the saatvachchans are the moral bond between a man and a woman. However, by pushing her woke ideas, Kshama has corrupted the idea behind the vows and the wedding. If she does indeed want to make a moral obligation to herself, she should refrain from calling it a wedding.
Same-sex marriage is not legal in India but people still do get married. Seeing this is the Pride Month, TFI takes this opportunity to reference its stand that we are not against the LGBTQ community. However, for the evolution of humankind, it is required that a biological male and female get married and have kids.
Unfortunately, the human anatomy has not advanced to the stage where two individuals in a same-sex marriage can procreate and give birth to an offspring. Similarly, a sologamist cannot produce an offspring.
If the media continues to publicize the likes of Kshama, other idiots may attempt to follow the trend. The total fertility rate of the country is already below replacement level and if sologamists have their way, India’s population may see a severe drop.
Moreover, as per Indian laws, Sologamy is not legal. An individual cannot marry themselves. There has to be two persons in a marriage. The Hindu Marriage Act uses the terminology ‘either of the spouse’, which simply means that there must be two persons to complete the marriage. Thus, Kshama Bindu will not be able to tick the married box anywhere.
Kshama Bindu needs help. Nothing logical explains her decision. She is deluded and drowned in her narcissism. Those around her should step up and try to make her see the reality. She has had her fame but now is the time to step back.